My hope is that you’re having a good day!
Many of the fathers of this world have been and are great people. I hope you all have incredible fathers that make you feel empowered (I sure do).
It’s interesting how the “father figure” in a family has change over the course of the last few generations alone. Even just 100 years ago, fathers were almost exclusively the “tough love” kind of parent, where an open display of affection was basically not allowed. The interesting thing, though, is that fathers have changed due to both circumstances such as World War II, and a desire to be different than their parents, perhaps because they didn’t like how they were treated.
I know that that there is a major difference between my parents and my grandparents. Not only are the methods of teaching very different, but also my father is a very emotional person, open to sharing feelings. That may still make some people uncomfortable, nowadays, but it has made our relationship far enriched with trust and mutual respect.
Why is this change happening? Well times are changing, and a lot of the old ways of thinking have to be thrown out, because they’re not working anymore. We’re always evolving, and now at such a pace, what with technology and other advancements, that we have to change our very thinking, because stuff is getting looked at in different ways now. Art, Civil Rights, and communication, are just a few.
The history of Father’s Day in itself is very interesting. In 1909, a little over 100 years ago (a date matching my earlier reference quite nicely), a woman called Sonora Smart Dodd decided that Father’s should have a day of honor to themselves. She came up with this idea during a Mother’s Day sermon she was listening to, actually, and wanted to celebrate her father for single-handedly raising the her and her siblings after her mother died. Apparently she had a great father, so good for her (I make the reference because back then and even sometimes now, men have treated woman unfairly, and it was acceptable to beat your children, particularly the daughter, often for no apparent reason).
So she decided to hold the first Father’s Day ever on June 19th, 1910, on her father’s birthday. And get this: instead of appreciating the gesture, the day was received with mockery by father’s around the country. Mockery. That’s how it was taken, and in stark contrast to Mother’s Day. It took the next decade and immense effort from Dodd to get the national Holiday going.
So much has changed since then. The Holiday is huge to say the least. Have father’s gotten better? I suppose that depends on how you define “better”. Either way, I personally believe that the father in the family has become more involved, and that to me is a huge improvement. I don’t know who I’d be without the guidance and love of my father.
So I wish you the best father’s day, both to you fathers and those of you with great fathers. It’s a time to acknowledge what they’ve done. Share this with someone if you have an amazing father!
P.S. Just as a heads up, tomorrow’s topic is a little bit darker, so be ready. I was planning on writing it today, but I didn’t want to spoil the mood of Father’s Day. 🙂
- Father’s Day Shortchanged? Humble History, Fewer Gifts (purestrange.wordpress.com)
- Father’s Day – honouring fatherhood (insightnewspaper.wordpress.com)
- Happy Father’s Day for Fathers and Mothers (maggiemoosetracks.wordpress.com)
- The Daughter behind Father’s Day & Why it Made Men Grumble (carlanthonyonline.com)