Welcome to a brand new week,
I had the most interesting and refreshing conversation with a perfect stranger two days ago. The best thing about it was that I was not expecting it at all, and once I found myself caught up in the conversation, I was completely wrapped up in it and thoroughly enjoying it. I can’t express enough how much I love random conversations and interactions with people. They can have such an impact in my life. They do have had such an impact in my life.
Well that happened, and what we spoke about got me thinking enough to blog about it today.
It’s interesting when you encounter something in your life and others around you are encountering the same things. Firstly it shows you how similar our lives are, and how we all have to face the same things at some point or another. But even more meaningful to me, it shows you that we attract certain things in our lives and it really is a “small world”. I’ve certainly found people with similar interests and that have entered my life to be due to my own actions and motives sending out a sort of message to the world of what it is that I want.
So before I know it, I find myself discussing the complications of suicide. It feels as if it’s out of nowhere, but is it? Or was I meant to have the discussion that would soon open my eyes on the matter – just from talking about it?
The reason why I say it’s a small world is because I knew a girl who committed suicide just recently. In fact, I used to school with her. And even though I didn’t have a ton of contact, I knew her. I was a part of her life. She committed suicide when she was 15 years old.
Suicide is so misunderstood. Firstly, it’s such a dark topic. And it makes people uncomfortable. It doesn’t fit in to the image of happiness and prosperity. But it exists, and I think we need to be more open about it as people. At times it’s unavoidable too, what with the statistics being as scary as they are. I kept reading that there was something like 1 million suicides per year, and even scarier is that many of those are teenagers.
The hardest part about this whole subject is that there are so many components that are not truly looked at, and there really isn’t a “right” answer, because as I said in this post, there is always more than one side to the story, and more than one perspective that must be seen.
I always like to think of the pain that the person is going through and remember that, because that is, to me, the most important part of the situation. It’s the pain that can drive someone to do such things to find an escape. And for all of us that don’t have any experience to relate to their situation, how can we truly understand? We can’t.
There is the saying that suicide is a “permanent solution to a temporary problem”. That may well be true – there’s no turning back (even if you believe in reincarnation, you won’t get the same life back). But again, who’s to know if the problem will ever go away? A father that beats their child, or perhaps social confinements brought by a magnified version of peer pressure can have a terribly damaging impact. I’m not in those situations, so do I have the right to judge them?
Another thought I had on the matter: would forcibly stopping a suicide be helpful or bring about more pain to the person? Pain is part of life, and is often our greatest teacher. But what if it’s too much for them to handle? And I’m a firm believer in therapy and the like to prevent such events, but sometimes things are inevitable… what then?
Another thing that comes to mind – motive. Is stopping a suicide to save the person’s life, or to clear the conscience of those closest around them? Has it become a selfish thing? I know that my life would be completely shattered in front of me if a close family member that I loved committed suicide, and so I would try to stop it. So does that mean things are done to try to protect the welfare of many over the welfare of one single person? Is that why committing suicide is illegal, named a sin, and heavily frowned upon?
The point of me saying all of this is not to try to convince any of you readers on what to do in this kind of situation. I’m just trying to open eyes, because suicide will come into our lives in some way at sometime, through friends or family, coworkers or colleagues, or just some acquaintance you know. There is so much that can be learned from these situations. Why do they happen, what can we do, why does this happen in life? We learn what it’s like to mourn, to grieve for a lost one, but do we learn what was the right thing to do?
Do you take action and get involved, or do let nature do its thing?