So right back to where I left off. As I said yesterday, I very firmly believe that fate plays a large role in the scheme of our lives. Yes, I don’t think we’re all just an accident. That seems like a degrading way to view ourselves, in my opinion. It’s not ego that I’m coming from, I believe what I say because I think life is about learning and that’s what we’re here to do.
But there’s more than just that. Fate can’t be everything to what are our lives. If that’s the case, not only are we simply puppets for some imaginary audience, but our existence is pointless, our feelings mean ultimately nothing, and our discoveries are not discoveries at all. I simply can’t accept that. My existence is very real, at least to me. My feelings are of utmost importance to me, and the discoveries that I’m making are why I’m here and what makes my time here worthwhile.
One way to view freewill in context with fate is that you and I can make what we want of our lives, but only through the situations that come our way. That was an interesting thing that came up on Friday – that fate comes in the form of life only throwing certain situations/struggles at you. You can make of them however you want, through your actions and decisions, but your life is limited in that not everything comes your way.
Although I also see fate as the skeleton and the framework of our lives, there is one fundamental difference for me: we as people, in many ways, control what comes our way in life. Just as it has been proven time and again that living negatively will attract negativity, and living positively will attract positivity, the same principle applies to all aspects of life. Action leads to reaction.
The only safe example I can conjure up right now is: if you don’t do what makes you happy, you will be dealing with unhappiness. It really is as simple as that. Don’t follow your passion? Bottle up what you want to say, what you feel? Next thing you know, you’re staring depression in the face. Trust me, I know first hand how that feels.
Fate does, inevitably, still play a role in some of the bigger events of our lives. You have to think that your soul mate was “meant” to be with you. If not… then what is true love? These kinds of extremely heavy questions start popping up like balloons (really dense balloons… think steel) if you don’t believe anything at all is pre-determined.
But here’s the thing about freewill in correspondence to fate that I think is so empowering… one of the most empowering thoughts for me in my life: we are the architects of our lives. I believe we take the events that we will inevitably have to confront, either from our own actions attracting such things into our lives, or supernatural intervention, and make the outcome be a reflection of our actions. If I negatively take a job-loss, and become depressed with myself, and give up in life, then it was I that brought myself down. Losing the job (pretending that this event was fate, despite work ethics) in itself may have been out of my control, but I very much take the power of my life in my hands, and make of the situation as I will.
This thought, that I am truly the master of my life, is one of the chief reasons I feel so strong within. It reminds me that yes, there are things out there that I will never be able to control. But there is also the beautiful ability within myself to shape my world and completely be the one living my life. These two powers, fate and freewill, depend on each other, opposites, yet exactly the same, in creating my life. There is a balance between the two, a fine line where life is both taking the lead and following mine. I am both in control (freewill) and not (fate).
I want to find that balance one day, because I know that when I do, I will come in harmony with life itself, doing my part to lead myself, and doing my part to follow.
This is how I see fate and freewill.