So I realize that my question from yesterday is no simple, easy-answer question. I’m not asking about how to decide on which kind of sandwich to eat for lunch. That is a fairly emotionless decision that can be made with minimal if any consequences. If you’ve been reading my blog for even just a little while, you know that I have no interest in asking what I believe to be trifle questions. If you want that turkey-musturd combo, knock yourself out. You could read the rest of this piece while you’re eating.
I was really asking about what you do when two deeply emotional parts of yourself are conflicting. It’s not nearly as simple, in fact it’s not simple at all. Because even if one option outweighs the other, there can be massive consequences of all kinds. Can you really just pick one and forget about the other(s)?
Emotion just doesn’t work like that.
The left brain seems to better fit our society that the right brain. We are encouraged to think more than feel. It’s definitely more comfortable to think than to feel. I’m doing my best to change that about myself, to move beyond what feels safe and inviting. At the same time, I didn’t call my blog ‘Deep Feelings’ for a reason. It sounds cheesy, it’s sounds uncomfortable.
I just had a conversation with someone in which the person I was conversing with was explaining to me why art is useless, it has no purpose, and it isn’t really a safe form of income. That isn’t far from how many people think. We discount any sort of feeling involved, any sort of need for emotional release.
By nature we like to reason. We like to set out all of our options, examine them, and then pick the best one. Easy, right? I’ll just have the turkey mustard sandwich right now, and have a different kind tomorrow. It’s simple, and you can just move on.
It’s not at all the same way with emotionally involved decisions. Some are difficult even to
explain to other people. These decisions take on a new level of intensity, a new level of importance. Look at your own life. Don’t tell me there aren’t things you wish you did, decisions you feel you should or shouldn’t have made. My guess is that you think about these things a lot. I sure do. Maybe there was a way I could have looked at it from another angle, choosing just a little more wisely….
But it’s not like that. Emotions are our internal compasses. When emotion or feeling is involved in anything, your higher self, your “I” is trying to tell you something. Reasoning is usually just looking at things from a materialistic point of view, the eyes of a human being. You can’t reason with emotion, because you can’t control your emotion! It’s futile to try.
When one is stuck in a difficult place, crossroads, the course of action that should be taken is to first stop, then take a step back and just feel. Tap into the higher intelligence that exists beyond the material plane. Maybe for you, it’s God. Listen to what He has to say. Meditation is also fantastic, although it’s not the only method. You just have to slow down and listen.
It’s not easy. From experience struggling with this kind of thing, I know how easy it is to just let your head get in the way, choose for you. Its easier, it’s a natural tendency of humans. More than that, feeling for an answer takes far longer (at first) than thinking up an answer. It takes massive patience and determination to stop yourself and let the universe, God, tell you.
Despite how difficult it may be at first, it’s worth it. An answer you found through the universe is never wrong, and you will find comfort in knowing that you took the right path for yourself. But more than anything, you will grow closer, more connected, with God, with the universe, with life itself. You’ll realize you’re not alone, that there is always support somewhere. All you have to do is listen.
- Right-Brain, Left-Brain (fremontlibraries.wordpress.com)
- Learn to let go–and you will be happy. (positive-thoughts.typepad.com)